ASK AMY
Q:How do I know if he is cheating?
A:Trust your instincts. The most tell tale sign of infidelity is a change in the other person. Has their daily routine changed? Are they harder to get a hold of? Are they more distant or perhaps too accommodating? All of these signs could be signs of infidelity. If you are feeling paranoid or suspicious be up front and present your case. Their reaction will be the best way to determine if your notions are right or wrong.
Q:How can I break it to her that I want to start seeing other people?
A:Ooh, ouch. Well there really is no easy way out. Breaking up with someone always has and always will suck. The most important thing is to not be a pansy about it. Tell her how you feel without any clichés. Be prepared for her to be mad, possibly cry, or even throw something at you. Just be as honest as you can; she might hate you for awhile, but eventually she will be grateful for a proper sendoff.
Q:My boyfriend wants to make a sex tape, what should I do?
A:Oh I can just see it now. “But he said that it was just for us to watch, so why I am now the star of You Porn?” Use your head. Unless you are going for a career as a porn star, do not document your sex life. I’m sure you both look fabulous and that your new position would be inspiring to others, but keep it to yourselves. Bottom line, your boyfriend sounds like a douche and you might want to get your head out of your ass.
Q:My girlfriend expects me to pay for everything how can I get her to pay for something?
A:Ahh I remember those days. “No, no it’s on me.” Now my husband sounds like Ricky Ricardo. Sorry but enough about me. If you have been dating for more than a few months, it’s time for her to pick up a tab or two. Tell her that you’ll pay for dinner if she picks up the movie. Or that you’ll buy the shackles if she buys the whip, depending on what you’re in to. Anyway, if she’s a reasonable girl she will agree. Otherwise, she’s a stuck up b@**# and you should drop her.
Q. How do I go from being the friend to being the boyfriend?
A: Can we say awkward? Well the key thing to remember here is that you have the advantage over all the other losers I’m sure she is dating. You have the inside scoop. While the initial plunge might make or break your relationship it is important to maximize all your resources. Pay attention to what she likes and dislikes and try remembering what worked and didn’t work in her past relationships. The most important thing is not to creep her out. She sees you as a friend which means that she feels more comfortable around you than she might around someone she is dating. You might also want to cut out some of the activities you do with her currently so that she stops viewing you like a sister. No one wants to get it on with the guy who just cried over a Nicholas Sparks movie with you. After all, you’re her friend, not her gay friend. If she’s really the one, be direct about how you feel.
Q. What is the best way to pick up someone in a club/bar?
A: If you’re going to do this right you need to have a plan. First of all let’s talk wardrobe. You’ll want shoes with good traction to avoid any embarrassing slipping or falling as you make your exit. Also, avoid silk; you don’t want your new playmate to slip out of your initial grab and lift. And finally, remove any facial jewelry that could possibly be pulled out by a startled specimen. Next locate a target. You will want to find someone your own height or perhaps a bit shorter so to ensure mobility. Take note of their behavior and surroundings. The ones that are dancing are squirmy but easier to get close to as they are already gyrating with many other targets.
Q. The other night I had a random sex dream about this guy I have never really been attracted to and haven’t even seen in three months. I am in a very happy relationship, what do you think it means?
A: It seems to me that you are A. not getting enough action in the champagne room A.K.A the bedroom and/or B. there is not enough variety for you. You might want to step back and take a look at the situation. Talk to your man and maybe try experimenting with him. Try new positions, times of day, location, and yes, even toys. Some people do get freaked out when it comes to toys. They think that they are going to like it more than the real thing; if that’s the case you might want to forget what I have said and just find a new man.